The main reason I choose not to have the Down Syndrome test for any of my pregnancies is, when I was born I had many problems. They weren’t sure whether I would survive and if I did, how disabled I wold be. Luckily, in the end my disabilities, even though difficult (OCD, dyspraxia and dyslexia), could have been so much worse. Why would I abort a disabled child when I myself have disabilities?
Even though it would be hard, and I’m sure there are times it would break us, we would love a disabled child. It does worry me, would I be able to cope? We would have to!
I understand why people do have the test for Down Syndrome and other disabilities. It’s a scary prospect. I can see why people would want to know. I can understand why people may have an abortion because they may feel they can’t cope with a disabled child.
But I cannot truly decide if I agree with this or not. Is it fair to bring a child into the world that you won’t be able to look after? On the other hand, you don’t know how bad their disability would be and is it fair to terminate a baby because they will be disabled?
I think these questions could go on forever and I’m sure everyone will have their own opinion, each of which are valid. I think you could write a book discussing this, but we should all be thankful we live in a society where we have a choice and can voice our opinion.
One positive aspect to knowing if we were having a disabled child would be I could prepare myself mentally and physically with knowledge and support.
My husband and I chose not to have any of my pregnancies tested for Down Syndrome.
Before having Monkey I had a missed miscarriage, so with monkey we just felt blessed to be pregnant again.
What ever happens, disabled or not, we will love this child to the moon and back and try to be the best parents we can.